Tope Alabi Finally Speaks Over Alleged First Marriage
Popular Nigerian gospel singer, Tope Alabi has spoken for the first time about the controversy surrounding her alleged marriage to the father of her first child, Lekan Olaoye.
The award-winning artiste, who shares a daughter, Ayomikun, with Olaoye, said contrary to public belief, there was never a formal marriage between them.
After parting ways with Olaoye, Tope Alabi got married to Soji Alabi in November 2000, and the union is blessed with two children.
The singer had come under social media criticism months ago for allegedly excluding her ex from their daughter’s wedding and changing Ayomikun’s surname to that of her current husband.
Addressing the issue in a recent video shared on her Facebook page, Tope Alabi said her relationship with Olaoye was never sealed traditionally or legally, as his family never visited her parents.
She explained: “I started living with him, feeling there was no point going back to where my family was pressuring me to marry at all costs. Little did I know I had moved from the frying pan to the fire. Whenever I visited home, my father would express his concern.
“He would say he hadn’t met the man I was living with nor any of his family members. It took repeated insistence before my so-called partner finally came one night, bringing along work friends. My family asked when his family would come for the introduction, and all he said was, ‘Okay’.
“If that ‘okay’ was ever going to come to pass, perhaps it would have been tomorrow. But tomorrow never came. Now, I don’t even need his ‘okay’ anymore. My dear father, who once longed for it, is no longer here. While here, he received a far better ‘okay’ from a good family.
“Ladies, please listen to me, when a man sees that you are gullible or vulnerable, he can take advantage of you.”
The gospel icon urged young women to learn from her experience and avoid being pressured into relationships that lack family and moral foundations.
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